Post by earthdog on Nov 14, 2007 9:06:42 GMT -5
My dad pasted away Tuesday morning, down in Florida. He was in a coma after having a few heart attacks and a couple strokes that left both right and left sides paralyzed. He was 85 years old.
Before anyone says "I'm sorry" You have to understand that I haven't talked to my parents for the last 9 years. My brother hasn't talked to them either.
Our parents are our adopted parents by the way.
They were ok when we were growing up he worked for the government and retired as a GS 23. They were always there for us, gave us everything, but after we turned into adults they started acting weird towards us. Doing stupid things like trying to ruin my brothers career in radio and threatening to call my boss to get me fired. They held everything they did for us as parents against us as adults like when my brother got into some trouble and they helped him out. Telling us things like "we helped you out with money back 20 years ago" Well my brother sent them a check for $45,000 one day to repay them for anything and everything. They ripped the check up and sent it back to him. Just so they could still hold stuff over his head.
My parents lived 3 miles away from me when my daughter was born and did not ask to see her until she was 3 years old.
They also snubbed my daughter when she was 7 and haven't sent her a card or a gift for the last 6/7 years. In fact they sent her a X-mas card 7 years ago telling her they weren't going to send her anything anymore because they were pissed at me and my x-wife.
Once when I was on probation in IL. they went down and talked to my PO and tried to get the PO to put me in jail. Bringing up stuff that I did as a 10/12 year old. My PO told me to get a restraining order on them.
My cousin emailed me Monday telling me the doctors took him off life support on Monday. Tom, who was always portrayed as our uncle to the whole family but was in fact our mothers real son got very pissed that cousin Allan let me know what was going on with him. I called my aunt and talked to her. I told her I wasn't going to call my mother but for my aunt to give her my number and if she wanted to call me she was welcome to. She told my aunt she wanted to. Tom got very pissed that my aunt might have given me the phone number to the room they were in at Hospice, Tom didn't want me to call her about my father. I hear that Tom is bossing my mother around while he is down there with her, demanding that she move back to Michigan with him and his family and to go to the attorney right away, among other things. I get the feeling that Tom doesn't want my brother or I in the will. The will doesn't bother me, I don't want anything at all from them as far as their stuff goes. That kind of stuff is why my brother and I have distanced ourselves from the family. If anyone here has followed my brothers radio show, and I know there is a couple people here that have, they know what I'm talking about. My brother will be doing his show today and I'm sure he will touch on the subject of our father passing away. If you haven't heard the show you can listen online, just look up the Don & Mike show and either go to the affiliates page or go to WJFK and hit listen live at 3:pm eastern. There will be no funeral, no memorial either.
I'm sorry that my father had to suffer in his last days. I'm not sorry for how he treated my brother, me and our kids.
I'm sad that he is gone but to tell you the truth, besides that I don't know how to feel. I didn't shed a tear, I don't feel sorry that I haven't talked with them in 9 years either. Am I a cold person?
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.
Before anyone says "I'm sorry" You have to understand that I haven't talked to my parents for the last 9 years. My brother hasn't talked to them either.
Our parents are our adopted parents by the way.
They were ok when we were growing up he worked for the government and retired as a GS 23. They were always there for us, gave us everything, but after we turned into adults they started acting weird towards us. Doing stupid things like trying to ruin my brothers career in radio and threatening to call my boss to get me fired. They held everything they did for us as parents against us as adults like when my brother got into some trouble and they helped him out. Telling us things like "we helped you out with money back 20 years ago" Well my brother sent them a check for $45,000 one day to repay them for anything and everything. They ripped the check up and sent it back to him. Just so they could still hold stuff over his head.
My parents lived 3 miles away from me when my daughter was born and did not ask to see her until she was 3 years old.
They also snubbed my daughter when she was 7 and haven't sent her a card or a gift for the last 6/7 years. In fact they sent her a X-mas card 7 years ago telling her they weren't going to send her anything anymore because they were pissed at me and my x-wife.
Once when I was on probation in IL. they went down and talked to my PO and tried to get the PO to put me in jail. Bringing up stuff that I did as a 10/12 year old. My PO told me to get a restraining order on them.
My cousin emailed me Monday telling me the doctors took him off life support on Monday. Tom, who was always portrayed as our uncle to the whole family but was in fact our mothers real son got very pissed that cousin Allan let me know what was going on with him. I called my aunt and talked to her. I told her I wasn't going to call my mother but for my aunt to give her my number and if she wanted to call me she was welcome to. She told my aunt she wanted to. Tom got very pissed that my aunt might have given me the phone number to the room they were in at Hospice, Tom didn't want me to call her about my father. I hear that Tom is bossing my mother around while he is down there with her, demanding that she move back to Michigan with him and his family and to go to the attorney right away, among other things. I get the feeling that Tom doesn't want my brother or I in the will. The will doesn't bother me, I don't want anything at all from them as far as their stuff goes. That kind of stuff is why my brother and I have distanced ourselves from the family. If anyone here has followed my brothers radio show, and I know there is a couple people here that have, they know what I'm talking about. My brother will be doing his show today and I'm sure he will touch on the subject of our father passing away. If you haven't heard the show you can listen online, just look up the Don & Mike show and either go to the affiliates page or go to WJFK and hit listen live at 3:pm eastern. There will be no funeral, no memorial either.
I'm sorry that my father had to suffer in his last days. I'm not sorry for how he treated my brother, me and our kids.
I'm sad that he is gone but to tell you the truth, besides that I don't know how to feel. I didn't shed a tear, I don't feel sorry that I haven't talked with them in 9 years either. Am I a cold person?
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.