Post by 1dave on Dec 11, 2018 13:07:26 GMT -5
Arlen Evins, radio , just reported on facebook that his wife has died.
Yesterday was the hardest day of my life. I had say a final goodby to my wonderful wife of 33 years. For months she was having stomach issues thst kept getting worse and worse finally getting to the point she could not eat or drink without throwing up.
Afyer many tests they determined that her orevious gastric bypass surgery had built up scar tissue not allown food to pass from her stomach and into the intestines.
We finally succeeded in getting a reconstructive surgery scheduled and were certain she would soon return to normal.
The day if the surgery the Doctor came to me in the waiting room and i knew something eas dreadfully wrong! He explaind that he daw very advanced cancer and reconstructive surgery was not possible. He told me he could place a feeding tube in the intestine just below her stomach so she could get nourishment and hydration that way. I asked how long she had and he told me 6 months to a year.
The Oncologist was somewhat optimistic that chemo could slow it down and she could last. a few years .
The surgery was very hard on her and she was in incredible pain for 3 days then started to improve. We were relieved but that quickly faded as her intestines could not process the nourishment and her tummy swelled up like a balloon causing major pressure on her heart and lungs.
Things only got worse and she was moved to the cardiac unit last Friday. Saturday evening she deteriorated rapidly and was placed on comfort care with increase doses of pain meds. We had already talked a few days before when she was alert and she made me promise she would not die in a hospital.
Yesterday i arranged for an ambulance to bring her home and she passed at 9:35 last night
I was with her day and night during her hospital stay except for every second or third day or so her sister would stay so i could come home and shower and get some much needed rest before going back to be with her.
I can not find the words to describe my pain at losing her, but yet i am thankful that she passed relatively quickly and did not linger in pain for months as some cancer patients do.
I have given thanks to God for the time we had together and look forward to seeing her again. I now understand how some married couples die of heartbreak after losing their partner of many years.
This is the second hardest day ad i now have to to the funeral home to take care of arrangements. We both wished to be creamated, so there will be no funeral services.
I do want to have a memorial for her sometime soon and will try to post the day, time and place, but likely at the Branson craft mall where we both have shops.
This photo of her was taken on Valentines day 2017.
Afyer many tests they determined that her orevious gastric bypass surgery had built up scar tissue not allown food to pass from her stomach and into the intestines.
We finally succeeded in getting a reconstructive surgery scheduled and were certain she would soon return to normal.
The day if the surgery the Doctor came to me in the waiting room and i knew something eas dreadfully wrong! He explaind that he daw very advanced cancer and reconstructive surgery was not possible. He told me he could place a feeding tube in the intestine just below her stomach so she could get nourishment and hydration that way. I asked how long she had and he told me 6 months to a year.
The Oncologist was somewhat optimistic that chemo could slow it down and she could last. a few years .
The surgery was very hard on her and she was in incredible pain for 3 days then started to improve. We were relieved but that quickly faded as her intestines could not process the nourishment and her tummy swelled up like a balloon causing major pressure on her heart and lungs.
Things only got worse and she was moved to the cardiac unit last Friday. Saturday evening she deteriorated rapidly and was placed on comfort care with increase doses of pain meds. We had already talked a few days before when she was alert and she made me promise she would not die in a hospital.
Yesterday i arranged for an ambulance to bring her home and she passed at 9:35 last night
I was with her day and night during her hospital stay except for every second or third day or so her sister would stay so i could come home and shower and get some much needed rest before going back to be with her.
I can not find the words to describe my pain at losing her, but yet i am thankful that she passed relatively quickly and did not linger in pain for months as some cancer patients do.
I have given thanks to God for the time we had together and look forward to seeing her again. I now understand how some married couples die of heartbreak after losing their partner of many years.
This is the second hardest day ad i now have to to the funeral home to take care of arrangements. We both wished to be creamated, so there will be no funeral services.
I do want to have a memorial for her sometime soon and will try to post the day, time and place, but likely at the Branson craft mall where we both have shops.
This photo of her was taken on Valentines day 2017.