Post by llanago on Feb 20, 2005 12:47:05 GMT -5
Now, I am really depressed! There have been so many posts the last week and I may never get caught up reading them all! ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png)
Cher, if I had any gold teeth, I would definitely want them out too before the funeral home got me! I had pretty much decided to donate my body to the UT body program. But, kinda changed my mind after WC's service. I know my family will do what I want them so do, so I feel confident that when it's my time, they won't be calling the funeral home at all. After we had the funeral home pick up the body, we remembered that we have a game cooler up at the ranch that we could have stored the body in rather than having the funeral home do it. So, the next one to go will be handled entirely be the family. I decided the willed body program mainly because I don't have a funeral plot and they cost so dang much! But, now that WC is buried in this beautiful little cemetary, I can be buried there. It's a family cemetary and until one of my relatives were there, I couldn't be. And, a plot only costs $15.00!
Ah, the beauty of living in a rural area! My sister was disgusted though, because had she bought theirs sooner, she could have gotten them for only $5.00!
The whole concept of the funeral home is just a way to take advantage of people when they are the most vulnerable. Unfortunately, most people don't think that they have a choice.
Ron, I had several people come up to me after the service and tell me how nice it was and that they didn't know you could do that anymore. I didn't know one could do that either! I hope that now since they know it can be done, it will encourage them to do the same for their loved one. I have always thought it was horrible that people turned their loved one over to complete strangers on their death. There is nothing that honors the loved one more than the people that loved them the most have an active hand in their burial. I know that the boys building WC's coffin and even putting him in it will help them have closure even though I know it was very difficult for them to do.
I think the hardest thing for us has been remember him as he was before he got sick. My neice told me that she could hardly remember him when he was healthy and that just breaks my heart. I can recount all the things said since his death that he would get a kick out of and see him sitting at the kitchen table laughing, but right now they are not able to do that. Probably because they cared for him while he was sick and saw him everyday being sick, so that is imprinted on their mind. Although I feel guilty and regret that I didn't spend more time with him the last year, I think because of that I am more easily able to remember him as he was before the illness. And, I am thankful for that!
llana
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Cher, if I had any gold teeth, I would definitely want them out too before the funeral home got me! I had pretty much decided to donate my body to the UT body program. But, kinda changed my mind after WC's service. I know my family will do what I want them so do, so I feel confident that when it's my time, they won't be calling the funeral home at all. After we had the funeral home pick up the body, we remembered that we have a game cooler up at the ranch that we could have stored the body in rather than having the funeral home do it. So, the next one to go will be handled entirely be the family. I decided the willed body program mainly because I don't have a funeral plot and they cost so dang much! But, now that WC is buried in this beautiful little cemetary, I can be buried there. It's a family cemetary and until one of my relatives were there, I couldn't be. And, a plot only costs $15.00!
Ah, the beauty of living in a rural area! My sister was disgusted though, because had she bought theirs sooner, she could have gotten them for only $5.00!
The whole concept of the funeral home is just a way to take advantage of people when they are the most vulnerable. Unfortunately, most people don't think that they have a choice.
Ron, I had several people come up to me after the service and tell me how nice it was and that they didn't know you could do that anymore. I didn't know one could do that either! I hope that now since they know it can be done, it will encourage them to do the same for their loved one. I have always thought it was horrible that people turned their loved one over to complete strangers on their death. There is nothing that honors the loved one more than the people that loved them the most have an active hand in their burial. I know that the boys building WC's coffin and even putting him in it will help them have closure even though I know it was very difficult for them to do.
I think the hardest thing for us has been remember him as he was before he got sick. My neice told me that she could hardly remember him when he was healthy and that just breaks my heart. I can recount all the things said since his death that he would get a kick out of and see him sitting at the kitchen table laughing, but right now they are not able to do that. Probably because they cared for him while he was sick and saw him everyday being sick, so that is imprinted on their mind. Although I feel guilty and regret that I didn't spend more time with him the last year, I think because of that I am more easily able to remember him as he was before the illness. And, I am thankful for that!
llana