LarryS
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Post by LarryS on Feb 27, 2014 21:11:29 GMT -5
Christopher is taking all my tumblers & supplies. I advanced to a more expensive hobby, slabbing & cabbing. Running out of room in my spare bedroom/rock shop.
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Post by paulshiroma on Feb 27, 2014 21:15:02 GMT -5
Speaking of tumblers I have to get some new rollers for my Thumlers. The little rubber areas literally wore down, got uneven, and the barrels started rolling right off. Been several months now since I've had them running. Gotta go spring for some new ones!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 22:30:52 GMT -5
March 7-8-9 Hmmm.... Friday is a short day at work. Need to see what <'))))>< Fish has for me. If I can get my core-drill-press done this weekend, I'll bring it out for show and tell. John was very encouraging in this project. He should see it!
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LarryS
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Post by LarryS on Feb 28, 2014 13:11:49 GMT -5
Scott, how about some pictures and show us what you're talking about?
And I'll be looking for Fish and check out his rose quartz. Anybody have a picture of him or should I look for a guy with scales & gill plates?!?!
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Post by billg22 on Feb 28, 2014 13:20:23 GMT -5
Paul, I'm having the same kind of problem. Looks like the bearings are gone on on the non-power roller of one of my tumblers. I guess Rock Shed would be the best place to get a replacement. Looks like I'll be there around noon on Saturday. I'm dragging Tina out there this year.
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Post by <'))))>< Fish on Feb 28, 2014 16:35:38 GMT -5
Larry
I will have a wood sign son made for me..
it has GOT FISH on it...
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2014 19:16:24 GMT -5
Scott, how about some pictures and show us what you're talking about? And I'll be looking for Fish and check out his rose quartz. Anybody have a picture of him or should I look for a guy with scales & gill plates?!?! UPDATE. I will work in Victorville Friday. Usually done by 2pm so I can then head over to the show. Larry, I will definitely make pix of the build. Need some steel and some bolts, then a few hours fab time to make it fly. Also, Larry - I know Fish. Dan is the man! I'll introduce you guys!
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Post by christopherl1234 on Mar 2, 2014 3:30:48 GMT -5
I look forward to seeing you all out there!!
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Post by paulshiroma on Mar 2, 2014 18:14:28 GMT -5
Gang - looks like I may not be able to make it out. We're going to move my mother-in-law in with us for a few months while we wait for an opening at the assisted living facility. She's getting really (really) forgetful (left the gas on, on the stove one night) and it's getting dangerous for her to be by herself. So, we're going to move her in on the 8th. I'm looking forward to having her stay with us - she's got great stories and is genuinely fun to be with. A few weeks ago, she spent a long weekend with us and she and I spent part of an evening watching "Casablanca" one of our favorites and a movie she grew up with. It'll be a bit of an adjustment for everyone but, nonetheless, good for her.
So, in case I don't see you all - I hope you all have a great time! Paul
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LarryS
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Post by LarryS on Mar 2, 2014 19:56:55 GMT -5
Take care of good old mom. Family comes first. Try to get her to write a journal of her life. We did that with my grandmother & mom. You wouldn't believe the stories they have from growing up. And the most thing you miss by having your parents gone is not being able to ask questions. Do it while you still have time.
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Post by paulshiroma on Mar 3, 2014 23:38:52 GMT -5
Take care of good old mom. Family comes first. Try to get her to write a journal of her life. We did that with my grandmother & mom. You wouldn't believe the stories they have from growing up. And the most thing you miss by having your parents gone is not being able to ask questions. Do it while you still have time. SOUND ADVICE, Buddy!!! Thank you for that. I'm really looking forward to her moving in with us, even if it's only for a few months. So, yes, I'll have to do that! My parents are getting up there as well. Dad and Mom are both on the upper-half of their 80's and Dad's had a couple of TIA's and a heart arrhythmia earlier this year. Dorothy is about their age as well. Emotionally and mentally, I'm trying to prepare for their passing. Fortunately, Dad left very, very explicit instructions for me (as I'm the executor) - think bullet points, literally. Nothing for me to do but read and follow his final instructions.
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Post by christopherl1234 on Mar 4, 2014 2:08:04 GMT -5
Larry has the right idea. We will see you on the next one Paul
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Post by LarryS on Mar 4, 2014 12:01:20 GMT -5
You're never prepared for their passing. Just pray they don't suffer and go peacefully. Fortunately I was by both my parents side when they passed and that was really special to me. They died 6 months apart after being married for 64 years. Dad didn't want to live after mom passed but I wouldn't let him die. Wasn't fair to me. He was my best friend. I too was the executor and had all the headaches. As far as the journals go, me & my sister went through truck loads of pictures that were in the garage & closets. Had no idea who some of the people were, photos dating from the late 1800's to early 1900's. All came together after reading my grandmother's & mom's journals. Mom's dad died while she was 14. I knew practically nothing about him. I saw these photos from Alberta, Canada of some bloat running a river boat. Same guy in a fireman's suit. I knew he was a supervisor of a gold mine but come to find out he did all these other jobs too. If I didn't know, all the pics would have ended up in the trash. I logged everything, wrote the journals on Word doc, burnt DVD's for all the family including history & photos. Even my mom's sisters who are still alive and in their mid 80's didn't know about some of the history I found.
Main thing Paul, keep your chin up and stay strong, even though you're falling apart inside! Your dad is counting on you.
We'll be at Stoddard Wells Friday morning. Have to get the choice material before everyone else comes on Saturday! Don't worry, I'll leave a little bit for you guys, enough to make small cabs or ear rings!!!!
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Post by paulshiroma on Mar 4, 2014 22:53:29 GMT -5
Larry and Christopher: Thank you for the encouragement guys! I so appreciate the folks on the forum. Like an extended family spread out across the country. There are good days and bad days in all of this. Sometimes I'm fine and "accepting" and sometimes, I just want to scream. We're going to have to go through all my mother-in-laws stuff as well. Just before my father-in-law passed away, we spent an afternoon going through his photo albums with him. He was point out folks long since gone and reminiscing about times past. We found a really nice framed collage of photos and drawings titled "Summer of '42" with some of his photos and drawings of life at the internment camps during WW2. It included a copy of Executive Order 9066 - the relocation order. I'm glad he saved it. So many memories.
Our parents are/were amazing people. They did so much and sacrificed so much to make better lives for us here.
Paul
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Post by grayfingers on Mar 5, 2014 8:15:42 GMT -5
Paul, just saw this thread. Like Larry, I lost my parents in their 64th year of marriage as well. They passed away six days apart in 2011. After Mom passed, Dad was lost. . . I too was executor/trustee for their extensive living trust. It took two years to finish the estate work. That was an experience I could have done without.
I left my job to care for them in their home the last two years. I was there for the reminiscent stories, and for the moments that we shared that would not have been had I not been there for them. It was tough to see them decline, and they both died with us at their side. As hard as it was, I would do it all again. They made it very clear to me how much they appreciated this time of closeness and security, and another level of love was reached. My folks were very independent people, and it was hard on all of us as the "parental" roles were reversed.
Our parents were of a generation that will not easily be equaled. The burden of their decline was one I was honored to shoulder.
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LarryS
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Post by LarryS on Mar 5, 2014 12:37:03 GMT -5
Fortunately I was on unemployment otherwise I would have had to quit my job. And we put my name on the bank account and did all the finances for one year prior. Word of advise, if one of your parents dies first, BofA & Chase banks freeze the account. We were lucky because they had a credit union. And no matter what assets they have, it goes quick because caregiving costs $20 per hour, 24/7 and add it up. Money goes quickly. And watch the doctors & nurses like a hawk. They're constantly making mistakes. Get copies of the chart & med lists. Make sure they're doing their job. My main goal along with my parents is to make them pain free. I ended up filing greviance with Medicare and won, was able to change doctors mid stream and also filed a complaint with the CA Medical Board on the doctor. Idiot wasn't even fit to be a vet! It's pure hell watching your parent suffer while being totally ignored by our stupid medical system.
And there is a higher power. 2 days before my mom died at home while on hospice, me & my sister told her it was ok to go and not be afraid. We said our goodbyes. Right in the middle when Diane was making me dinner, I had the strangest feeling to go over to my parents house. Diane was mad I left. Just as I opened my parents door, the caregiver was crying and panicing. She said mom just stopped breathing. And another caregiver who my parents were close too also came over on her own time, just minutes later. Yep, mom was calling out for us, letting us know it was time. Then just hours before my dad died, he was yelling out for my mom. She came and showed him the way.
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Post by paulshiroma on Mar 19, 2014 8:16:54 GMT -5
Gang, thanks for the thoughts. This is very supportive and helpful and I so appreciate it. Lately, every priority has been reset ... a good thing if somewhat difficult as it makes you re-evaluate yourself. My Mom-in-Law has been with us now a couple of weeks and I'm enjoying the time and opportunity to just hang out with her.
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