lookatthat
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Post by lookatthat on Jun 18, 2019 12:10:46 GMT -5
Well, finally the weather is decent, so what's the problem?
I witnessed a guy crash his motorcycle (in my rearview mirror), so I turned the car around and went back to see if he was OK. Let me mention that I, nor anybody else, had anything to do with his crash. When I asked if he was alright, he threatened to kill me. What the hell! I drove to the nearest gas station and called the police. They wanted the plate number on the bike. Sorry, when he said he was going to blow my brains out, I didn't go closer! It was at night, I didn't have a great description, the police were tied up a motor vehicle accident -- upshot of it was, they didn't find him. Worst part is, I suspect he was local.
A friend died of cancer. She'd only been sick a few months.
Last night I got word that my youngest cousin, who is only in his 20s, is in the hospital with multiple organ failure.
My horse is depressed and losing weight because he can't go out in the pasture due to all the mud from weeks of rain. He is very susceptible to a nasty skin infection when he gets in the mud. We haven't had 4 days in a row without precipitation since last September.
My anxiety is through the roof, to the point where I hurt all over and get little sleep, even though I'm exhausted. I don't even feel like playing with my rocks anymore.
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Post by mohs on Jun 18, 2019 12:46:06 GMT -5
uuuugggh about all those troubles
and I thought my biggest problem was that Cheerios tasted stale ha
not sure what else too remark besides
take care
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Post by MsAli on Jun 18, 2019 12:52:39 GMT -5
What a freaking week for you!
I am so very sorry & I know that probably doesn't mean much
Chin up and know that it this too always passes
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Post by rockjunquie on Jun 18, 2019 13:28:29 GMT -5
Good heavens! As I always say- when it rains, it pours. But, there will come a clearing and blue skies. Just sucks right now. I hope your cousin pulls through and my condolences to you for your friend.
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Post by hummingbirdstones on Jun 18, 2019 21:45:03 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles and my condolences on your friend. I will pray for you and your cousin to pull through these times.
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Post by fernwood on Jun 19, 2019 6:43:53 GMT -5
Hoping things improve.
Is your horse getting extra treats and attention? For me, time with horses is very helpful in times of sadness or feeling overwhelmed.
Rocks are great therapy, too.
The rain is a pain for so many animals (and people).
Sorry to hear about your friend and cousin.
Stress can lead to physical illness, so please go to your happy place and do things that you enjoy. Yes, it is tough, but does help.
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Post by lookatthat on Jun 19, 2019 11:10:22 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles and my condolences on your friend. I will pray for you and your cousin to pull through these times. Thank you, I appreciate it.
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Post by lookatthat on Jun 19, 2019 11:16:46 GMT -5
Thank you all for your concern. Horsey was happy that yesterday I was able to hand-graze him in some dry areas. Today he can go out into a larger paddock near his buddies as all the standing water was gone from that area, but unfortunately rain is expected, so he will probably have to go back into the small pen after that for a while.
Cousin is doing better today -- me too, a little. Got some stuff done at work that I needed to get done.
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Post by lookatthat on Jul 7, 2019 9:36:33 GMT -5
Sad update. My cousin died yesterday. He was 24 years old. Family is heartbroken, especially one of my cousins. That poor girl must have a lightning rod on her head. In less than three years, among other major losses, she has lost her dog, her husband, her job, her boyfriend, her car, her new boyfriend's brother and her own brother (the last two on the same day.) I am at a loss as to what I could do or say to help. What can you possibly say to someone who has so much tragedy in her young life?
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Post by fernwood on Jul 7, 2019 9:47:10 GMT -5
All you can do is be there as someone to talk with. Send prayers or good thoughts their way. If it is appropriate, offer to help with anything they need.
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Post by MsAli on Jul 7, 2019 13:30:25 GMT -5
Sad update. My cousin died yesterday. He was 24 years old. Family is heartbroken, especially one of my cousins. That poor girl must have a lightning rod on her head. In less than three years, among other major losses, she has lost her dog, her husband, her job, her boyfriend, her car, her new boyfriend's brother and her own brother (the last two on the same day.) I am at a loss as to what I could do or say to help. What can you possibly say to someone who has so much tragedy in her young life? You just be there and offer an ear, support, a word if needed and you let her know that she is loved and strong and this too shall pass. I truly believe we are not given mountains we cannot climb, some of us just get bigger ones.
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Post by Rockindad on Jul 7, 2019 13:34:13 GMT -5
Sad update. My cousin died yesterday. He was 24 years old. Family is heartbroken, especially one of my cousins. That poor girl must have a lightning rod on her head. In less than three years, among other major losses, she has lost her dog, her husband, her job, her boyfriend, her car, her new boyfriend's brother and her own brother (the last two on the same day.) I am at a loss as to what I could do or say to help. What can you possibly say to someone who has so much tragedy in her young life? Unfortunately there are no magic words. While not on the same level as your cousin I went through something similar when I was 19. The brother of one of my best friends died in a car accident. I knew the family since I was in second grade, it was heartbreaking to see people I knew my whole life hurting so much and really shocking to have one of my peers pass away. A few months later my favorite uncle passed away unexpectedly from a brain aneurysm. In his mid forties with a wife and three kids left devastated. We were all very close and visited each other every summer and winter (they lived on the other side of the state) staying over at each others houses. Not only losing an uncle but knowing how much my cousins and aunt hurt was terrible. My aunt and uncle were also my parents best friends so it was a very sad time in our house. Two months after this my best friend growing up (who also lived right across the street) died after his body rejected a heart transplant. He came to see me a couple days before at the restaurant I worked at when he got out of the hospital early. I actually forgot I had a job to do, celebrating with him and his family that the worst was behind him. A couple of nights later he passed away. Sorry for the self indulgence, just wanted to give you some background. At that period of time in my life nothing was going to console me. No words were going to help. What did end up helping a bit is that people kept making an effort: a hug, a hand on the shoulder, a smile, etc. Eventually the words started to matter again. I know it sounds so basic but just "being there" is probably the best thing you can do and not give up when you don't get much of a response for awhile. I send your cousin, and you, the most sincere best wishes. Al
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Post by hummingbirdstones on Jul 7, 2019 13:35:51 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. Condolences and prayers for your family.
Ali and Beth gave you the best advice. That's all you can do is be there as support.
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Post by rockjunquie on Jul 7, 2019 14:00:36 GMT -5
That is terrible. So young. you and the family have my condolences.
My brother committed suicide when he was 21. We were very close and close in age. I was completely devastated. But, knowing I had kids that needed me really helped me hold it together. If it weren't for them, I may not even be here. It was also nice to know that other people cared. That's probably the most important thing. Let her know you are there for her for however long it takes. Too often, I think, well meaning people give up on the support too soon. It can take a long time. I didn't get over my brother for at least 2 years.
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Post by lookatthat on Jul 7, 2019 14:19:39 GMT -5
Thank you all for your kind words, and for sharing your stories with me.
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