My brother in law passed today
Dec 8, 2022 0:08:54 GMT -5
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Post by rockbrain on Dec 8, 2022 0:08:54 GMT -5
I know a lot of you know that my BIL Bill fell sick the other day and was in hospice care. He left us today. The hospital had released him the other day and he got to spend a little time at home. He caught up a bit on Yellowstone, enjoyed his favorite drink from Baskin Robbins and got to say goodbye to quite a few friends. My wife got to spend time with him. (couldn't go to the hospital because of her chemo challenged immune system) He had the people that meant the most to him by his side when he went and it seems like he slipped away without a lot of pain or issues at the end. If you gotta go, you can't ask for more than that.
I have to say some of what went on has restored a bit of my faith in humanity. First, there's all the awesome folks here. I felt kind of weird even posting about this in the events thread, but he was part of the event with us. The thoughts, prayers and well wishes that I shared with my wife really meant a lot. A few other things happened that I wasn't expecting. My MIL has some in home care that provides some transportation, but wasn't available to transport her to the hospital so she could see Bill. My wife called for medical transport and they were completely booked. When Diane explained what was going on the woman helping said she was going to try and make something work. A short while later she called back and said she pushed things around and arranged so someone could do it. She also said to not worry about the bill, it was on her. We were blown away. In the end it didn't work out, but it was because the driver sustained a head injury and it took a couple of hours before he got stitched up and was able to work.
The other thing that happened was with the home care. He was provided a hospital bed, oxygen, etc. and visits from the hospice nurse. He needed 24 hour care. My MIL's care had just had 2 shifts added to make it full time because Bill lived there and he had covered it the rest of the time. When my wife checked to see how much more it would be to add Bill she was told not to worry, they would cover it. The person that cared for my MIL is like an angel. Bill had been angry and unhappy for quite a while. The two of them developed a friendship and Bill became a different person. She really raised him up and brought a light to his final months. She also apparently became his Godmother, got him baptized in the hospital and brought in a priest at his request for last rites in his final moments.
I'm blown away by some of these people that barely knew him that went out of there way to make his, and our lives better. I'm so appreciative of all the folks that have reached out here and just the fact that I have somewhere to do this. A rock forum would seem a strange place to talk about this but I feel like it's family here.
Thank you all, Gary
I have to say some of what went on has restored a bit of my faith in humanity. First, there's all the awesome folks here. I felt kind of weird even posting about this in the events thread, but he was part of the event with us. The thoughts, prayers and well wishes that I shared with my wife really meant a lot. A few other things happened that I wasn't expecting. My MIL has some in home care that provides some transportation, but wasn't available to transport her to the hospital so she could see Bill. My wife called for medical transport and they were completely booked. When Diane explained what was going on the woman helping said she was going to try and make something work. A short while later she called back and said she pushed things around and arranged so someone could do it. She also said to not worry about the bill, it was on her. We were blown away. In the end it didn't work out, but it was because the driver sustained a head injury and it took a couple of hours before he got stitched up and was able to work.
The other thing that happened was with the home care. He was provided a hospital bed, oxygen, etc. and visits from the hospice nurse. He needed 24 hour care. My MIL's care had just had 2 shifts added to make it full time because Bill lived there and he had covered it the rest of the time. When my wife checked to see how much more it would be to add Bill she was told not to worry, they would cover it. The person that cared for my MIL is like an angel. Bill had been angry and unhappy for quite a while. The two of them developed a friendship and Bill became a different person. She really raised him up and brought a light to his final months. She also apparently became his Godmother, got him baptized in the hospital and brought in a priest at his request for last rites in his final moments.
I'm blown away by some of these people that barely knew him that went out of there way to make his, and our lives better. I'm so appreciative of all the folks that have reached out here and just the fact that I have somewhere to do this. A rock forum would seem a strange place to talk about this but I feel like it's family here.
Thank you all, Gary