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Post by americanbulldogsnj on Mar 10, 2006 8:06:42 GMT -5
Marian, I'm sorry you have to deal with so much rite now! I understand how frusterating and how much it hurts to hear someone speak ill of your child. My daughter is High Functioning Autistic (aspergers) with an emphasis on behaviour. She looks and learns like a normal 10 year old but sometimes things just don't come out rite, and sometimes she just does not understand. We have had more than our share of run in's with other parrents and people in general. I have found the best thing to do is sometimes the hardest thing to do. Let it go! That way your child learns how to deal with these people in the future, because being challanged they wil run into these people their whole life. They can take it personally or they can let it go according to what they are taught. Autism interfears with the Social aspect of the brain making what is Common Sence to you and me not so to and Autistic, they only know what they are acustomed to. The best way to get someone back is to let them look like the ass they are. I found out the other day that Bill Gates also has Aspergers Syndrome I bet some people that bitched when he was a kid wish they could have been nicer when they had the oportunity. Now that's PAY BACK! Peace, SSSSpaeman SSSpliff Awww thank you Splifff, ya know you and Alice helped me a great deal, as did everyone else. Sometimes I feel alone with my son's illness and God knows he does, like there is nobody that understands. It is nice to know there are people going throught the same, even though it makes life so much harder. I will probably talk to her when she drives by this morning, I'm going to insist. I just want this resolved, I'm in the right frame of mind right now so I'll behave... Thanks again everyone, I'll let you know what happens... Marian Ps Whoa! Bill Gates has Asbergers? That is amazing!!! |
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Post by americanbulldogsnj on Mar 10, 2006 8:34:19 GMT -5
RESOLVED!!! I flagged her down this morning and spoke with her briefly, here's what I said. "Are you the person that flagged down the bus and spoke with the busdriver about my son?" She tried to deny it at first (GRRRRR) but she fessed up "yes, I did speak with the busdriver". She wanted to continue with a rant but I cut her off and said " listen I don't know what you know about my son, but I'm going to tell you wether you like it or not, my son is Autistic and sometimes he doesnt get on the bus the first time". She sat in her car stunned, and had that "smacked ass" look. She replied "Ok, that's no problem I really just don't like the busdriver and it's really between me and her not your son". I said " Ok just wanted to clarify that there was no favoritism going on"... She said "That's fine, thanks" and drove away. Mission complete, without bloodshed...this time. I guess being born in the 60's, peace is in my blood... LOL find out something new everyday.
Marian
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spacemanspliff
starting to spend too much on rocks
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Post by spacemanspliff on Mar 10, 2006 8:46:11 GMT -5
 Glad things worked out for you. Sounds to me like she just wan't to be bitter for any reason but doesn't want the confruntation that goes with it. I feal sorry for her honestly, to have such pain it manifests like this. The worst part of it is that those kinds of things set your child back, for it's this fear of the unknown world outside that usually impedes progress in the first place. If the world is scary by itself it's got to be much worse with people screaming about you rite outside your door. Peace, SSSSpaceman SSSpliff |
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Post by americanbulldogsnj on Mar 10, 2006 9:58:39 GMT -5
True Spifff she seems like she's just angry at the world, I'm just glad that I could get my message across without raising my voice. I tend to be quite unassertive, this was a good excersize on part. My son was like " that lady was crazzzzy, I like my busdriver", I told him that sometimes adults get confused and angry like you do sometimes. He's ok about it tho, no damage done. My little man...sucha good boy.
Marian
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stefan
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Post by stefan on Mar 10, 2006 11:08:50 GMT -5
Love thy neighbor- even if they are an ass! I have a crazy neighbor (ran me off the raod once- then plowed my driveway the next week- told off the people up the road for their horses getting out (not even on his property) then let there daughter sled down his hill- Screamed at the other neighbor (retired and with his blind son at the time) about getting rocks out of the corn feild (not his anyway) then went over and graded his driveway when they dilivered the gravel- You just learn to wave and smile- wave and smile!
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Post by rockyraccoon on Mar 11, 2006 1:08:10 GMT -5
marian she needed to be called on the carpet on that. you did good and she may think next time before she speaks without all the facts.
kim
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Post by Condor on Mar 11, 2006 21:29:16 GMT -5
Will it all be worthwhile? Speaking your mind may make you feel better and make you feel that you are standing up for your child. Does he even know? Does he even understand? The lady knows what she did. Even the kind busdriver told her so. He was a class act in the way that he took care of her. Time may heal her, but in the here and now she is going through problems unlike she has probably ever gone before. I understand the anger you must feel, but there will be more as you cannot be with your child 24/7. Let this one go, and when there is truly a problem that can truly affect your son in an adverse way, be there and stand and fight for him otherwise you may become just as bitter as that lady is right now.
Condor
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Post by americanbulldogsnj on Mar 11, 2006 22:38:45 GMT -5
Let this one go, and when there is truly a problem that can truly affect your son in an adverse way, be there and stand and fight for him otherwise you may become just as bitter as that lady is right now. Condor Good advice, I pretty much just talked to her... but mostly just left it at that. It needed to be said, I needed to say it. As far as being bitter as her lol, nah...I got too much to be thankful for. Marian |
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Glad things worked out for you. Sounds to me like she just wan't to be bitter for any reason but doesn't want the confruntation that goes with it. I feal sorry for her honestly, to have such pain it manifests like this. The worst part of it is that those kinds of things set your child back, for it's this fear of the unknown world outside that usually impedes progress in the first place. If the world is scary by itself it's got to be much worse with people screaming about you rite outside your door.
