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Post by Original Admin on Mar 24, 2006 21:33:13 GMT -5
This is the angel which presides his place of rest. There are two of them. www.markwaddington.com/She looks over the blackness and nothingness of |
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Post by xenaswolf on Mar 24, 2006 22:14:59 GMT -5
She is beautiful and I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by docone31 on Mar 24, 2006 22:45:11 GMT -5
Wow Mark.
I hope you guys are doing ok. I am not sure there are words, only time. The experiences you and your Father in Law had, I can only imagine. Jenne's stepfather of 35 yrs, passed away two months ago, and we were just told the other day. Her mother is in serious condition and she is not able to access any information without extreme hassle. My sole surviving relative is two towns away, my mother. She has not seen me in almost 25yrs and has expressed through other sources she wants no part whatsoever in anything I am.
You and your Father in Law and just having a casual relationship means a lot to me. That you and your Father in Law were close friends warms my heart. I have silently felt great joy for you that you had that time. I will never know anything like that, nor have I ever known that.
Mark, I think you have earned the privilege, and I think you genuinely feel loss. I am rarely at loss for words, even the nonsense I can prattle on occasion. I just do not know what to say, except, I hope things are ok, and you are not alone.
I do not know what a family is. I am glad for you and everyone else who is part of one. With that joy, comes the price of mourning, sooner or later. I am sorry for your loss, and I am warmed that you had something that such a loss is felt. I can only imagine what it must have been like to just sit down and talk over little things.
I hope you guys are ok, and there are people there for you.
That is a great picture. It means a lot. I just wish in my darkness, I could say something that would bring light. You have brought light to me.
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Post by joe on Mar 25, 2006 0:29:39 GMT -5
May he rest in peace always.
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Post by Original Admin on Mar 25, 2006 6:16:57 GMT -5
Doc - all is fine except for this. And I should start telling myself to shut it and get over it and move on. I will when its right to do so. If I were you - I'd go and see my mother - and even if you row or something its better than nothing. Someone once wrote "If you have a mother make sure you take good care, you'll never know her true value until you see her empty chair." "casual relationship" Yes - definately - "lets fix this wiring today" - "lets put this archway up" - "what do I think of the new car" - "blair and his monkeys". Doc - you gotta see your mom - nothing is so bad on this dustball that you should keep apart.  |
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Post by Cher on Mar 25, 2006 10:26:05 GMT -5
Aww Mark, I'm sorry but it's good to know that you still miss him. He knows it and is with you always in the memories you have of him. Be happy that you have those good memories as there are so many who don't. We lost my mother-in-law the first of this month, it was a blessing for her, but sad for the family. The saddest part is they (her children) don't really have any "good" memories as she was a hard and judgemental person. Rejoice in your good memories, take the time to talk to him ... he's there listening you know, in your heart.
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Post by rockyraccoon on Mar 25, 2006 12:03:07 GMT -5
mark that is a beautiful angel to watch over his gravesite. only his body resides there. his soul is rejoicing and watching over you.
kim
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Post by 181lizard on Mar 25, 2006 13:43:22 GMT -5
I was a 3rd grader (loooong time ago) & my teacher (Miss Morasch - beautiful inside & out) made a poster for me when we lost my niece who was like a baby sister to me. It was langston hughs (sp) and went:
I loved my friend
He went away from me
There's nothing more to say
The poem ends
Soft as it began
I loved my friend
Pretty much says it all.
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Post by jlc0321 on Mar 25, 2006 18:12:18 GMT -5
Sorry about you're loss Mark.
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Post by inflight22 on Mar 25, 2006 19:01:16 GMT -5
Sorry to hear this, Mark. Mourning cannot be rushed. We have to ride it out. As time goes by, it gets a little less painful. Pushing ourselves to "get on with it" just means that we mask it with other things, and possibly having a lot of issues to deal with in the future. Take your time.
jj
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Post by docone31 on Mar 25, 2006 19:47:50 GMT -5
Mark, you have given sage words to me. If only I had not tried at expenses too great to live with. Many times. I no longer think about it. Sometimes, families just go south.
I have read of your relationship with your family, both natural, and in law. I am grateful for you. I just do not have words to express how deeply your loss touches me. It is not a sadness, it is a joy that you have known what makes you now feel loss, if even for a moment.
You have been blessed, and I carry a small part of that blessing with me.
I am glad you and your family are able to carry on, even if it is hard at times.
Thanks for everything you have done for us.
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Post by blarneystone on Mar 31, 2006 15:14:12 GMT -5
Mark - I know the pain you feel all too well as I lost my Dad last Sept. I sympathize with your loss and wanted to let you know.....
But I also wanted to respond to Doc...I wasn't going to post anything but I can't let it go in good conscience. I want to encourage you Doc...to go and see your mom...begin rebuilding your relationship with her before it's too late...honor the pain of Mark's loss by making the effort. I know from what I speak of...I was out of touch with my father for at least 15 years and recently lost him to cancer...I was fortunate enough to have 'made up' with him before he died but still regret the time lost...
I don't know your circumstances but just making the effort, even if it doesn't work out the way you want, will make a huge difference in both your lives.
I'm gonna shut up now....will not mention it again to you...but had to say something. Good luck Doc.
Dan
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Post by docone31 on Mar 31, 2006 20:29:01 GMT -5
Blarney, you and Mark, and others have expressed the same thing. Over ten years ago, I did just that. I appreciate everyone who has told me to do something like that. I did, at great expense. My wife's family is the same. Last year, we went to Los Angeles to be with my wife's mother. We gave up our business, sold our house short.
Today, we are still paying to make up the expenses for that trip. However, what I had learned from my family, I was able to support her in her trying to become part of her family.
Monetarily, it was a tremenous disaster. Internally, it was priceless. My wife was able to bridge a gap and come to peace with fundamental issues that had plagued her since she was 8yrs old. Needless to say, a signifigant family disaster with all the rest.
We are rebulding monetarily, we feel accomplishment without remorse. There has been balance. There is just sadness.
Life is just like a box of choclates. You never know what you will find inside.
With it all, there is a peace.
It could be so much worse.
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Post by blarneystone on Apr 3, 2006 9:15:49 GMT -5
Doc - I'm glad your wife was able to find some solace and as you said..even though the cost was significant the reward was priceless I'm sure. One thing I've learned about life is that with the Joy there is always sorrow...it's the nature of who we are. But ...I probably don't have to tell you...oh wise one  I suppose that each of us has to face trials and tribulations in different forms at different times regardless of who we are...it's how we deal with those tests that make us who we are. I'm glad that we have this place to share our joys and sorrows... Dan |
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Post by stefan on Apr 4, 2006 12:53:12 GMT -5
Too sad really- Mark- You have had many good times- and good memories- for that I rejoice- sad as it may seem to us- he is in a better place- I lost My grandfather a number of years ago- and not a day goes by that I don't miss him- He had a good life- and I was just starting to really understand him- and draw from him- then he was gone- I was his first grandson and I was a treasure- and he let me know it- But the nice thing is that he is still with me- in my heart- and NOBODY can take that away!
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