stefan
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Post by stefan on May 15, 2007 8:50:21 GMT -5
Well life has it's ups and downs- I realize that- and have tried to go with the flow- but I'm getting too old for it. Last summer my oldest (now 20) got into a world of trouble- (breifly- cannibis was involved- oh and a lack of money to purchase said substance- you can probably figure out the rest) Long and short of it is a 5 year stint on probation and 200 hours of community service- No Sympathy from me- but it has forced him to grow up and start behaving- and he dumped his girlfriend that was part of alot of his alterned mental state (was that a nice way to say she F'ed up his head?) and he has a new gal- and we like her- but now she is ---ahem--- how to say?? with child?? Yup thats right I'm gonna be a grandpa- me- yikes- I don't even feel old enough to be called an adult-
Well that is my big news- I have tried to tell you all this 5 time now- but I keep deleting the post cause it just does not sound right
She is due in August- and my granddaughter (hehehehe I'm begining to like the sound of that- granddaughter) is probably going to be named Zoey- I kinda like the name.
SO I guess you can expect a few pictures- and forgive me if I seem absent or not all here at times- I have had some big changes lately- and I seem to have lost my way for awhile- but it is all good- and I'm getting back on track.
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Post by hermatite on May 15, 2007 8:55:39 GMT -5
Hey Stefan, congrats! No doubt the little tyke will have you wrapped around her pinky in no time. And, I firmly believe, life has a way of coming out even, even if you can't see it at the time. When in doubt...look to the rocks. Imagine all that they've seen come and go. Oh...and one bit of advice, if I may. The diapers go on the bottom. Seriously though, you'll get it worked out...and congrats again.
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stefan
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Post by stefan on May 15, 2007 9:24:17 GMT -5
LMAO- Diapers on the bottom??? hmmm explains a lot- Thanks Herm- that was the smile I needed today!
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Post by xenaswolf on May 15, 2007 9:38:44 GMT -5
Grats Gramps! Maybe this is what the kid needs to get some maturity under his belt. You will all be fine!
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SilverHeights
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Post by SilverHeights on May 15, 2007 9:59:25 GMT -5
Stefan:
I haven't posted for a long time but just happened to catch your news about a Ganddaughter!! Congratulations!! There is a simple reason they are called "grandchildren" and we are called "grandparents" because that is what life is after Grandchildren enter it!, Grand!!!! They are our reward for having children.. and there is nothing like the first smile they give you, the first time they say Grandpa or Grandma and so on. The best thing tho is that all they expect from you is love!! and answers and piggy back rides and ice cream.. and... you get the picture.. you don't need to feel like an adult to enjoy them, and trust me they don't expect you to act like one either. They make you laugh and cry and so very very glad to be alive!! Congratulations to the parents as well. They will have to grow up..you don't!!
Dorothy
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Post by cina on May 15, 2007 11:32:37 GMT -5
My Mum said Grandkids make the world go around so I gave her one then two then twins. Now she says stop the world so I can get off for a bit. Hmmmm I hope the new baby in your life puts just enough spin to keep ya young!~! Steph  |
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Post by spikeict on May 15, 2007 21:27:02 GMT -5
I have been there with you my friend, My oldest got himself in a jam also (well not all his fault I blame part on his mother, who would not let him make the small mistakes to learn from) those were hard times but we got through them, also there on the Grandpa thing. I now have two of the cutest grandchildren the world has ever seen. They got married and though two thousand miles plus apart now have hung in there (uh, er, not the grandchildren the parents). I got news two days apart this weekend that has me reeling about my sons, none good. I know these words will sound hollow, but be glad he is out of harms way and is getting his life together. Things could be much worse.
Spike
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Post by stoner on May 16, 2007 0:18:10 GMT -5
Hey Stefan, congrats are order for you and your son. My oldest daughter moved in with her boyfriend when I was 40 years old and I told her she can't have kids for 15 years, cuz I didn't want to be called Grampa until I was at least 55. Yea well, damn kids never listen and I became a Grampa at 41. But that's actually a good thing. At least my grand kids will grow up knowing who their Grampa is. I never met either one of mine and the only memory of my mother's mother was seeing her in the hospital dying. I did get to spend some time with my father's mother and she was an awesome woman. So consider yourself lucky dude!
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SteveHolmes
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Post by SteveHolmes on May 16, 2007 6:43:35 GMT -5
Yes, no doubt...Congrats Grammpa Stefan! I think that is really neat. Just think how fun you'll eventually have rockhounding with your first grandchild, and sharing all those polished rocks with. Keep the faith with your son Stefan....things will all work out. Congratz again.
Steve
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Post by Cher on May 16, 2007 8:21:23 GMT -5
Awww Stefan, I am so happy for you. There's a reason they call them grandkids and that's because they are GRAND!! I'm like Loretta Lynn, became a grandma at 39 and there is nothing nicer in the world than growing up young with the grands. You'll appreciate that when that little one starts running you in circles. ;D Oh and who said you had to grow up? People (especially kids) automatically assume if you're a grandparent, you are going to do goofy things. Have at it boy, you may be getting older age-wise but now, as right of passage, you are beginning your second childhood and can act as childish as you want!
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stefan
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Post by stefan on May 16, 2007 8:59:40 GMT -5
Well thanks all for the kind words- and to the "younger" grandparents a BIG HUGE THANKS- I'm 41 now and I'm really looking forward to this- My 11 year old daughter put it all into perspective for me- she says "Daddy- when the new baby is old enough- can she come and sleep over like I get to do at MY Grandpas?" Yup it is good- And to know that my granddaughter will get a chance to meet not only her gandparents, but 3 of her greatgrandparents, and God willing 3 of her greatgreatgranparents!
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Post by hermatite on May 16, 2007 9:20:39 GMT -5
Yep...I had my first child at 39. I will likely never see my grandkids, so I'm expecting you to enjoy them vicariously. Here are some phrases I hope will help "yes, you can have that candy...don't tell your mother"; "Here's ten dollars...don't tell your father"; "yes, I always have time to hunt rocks with you".
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Post by cina on May 16, 2007 9:47:50 GMT -5
Herm, I just had to say for some silly reason that few words just made me cry lol It is funny how some things just jump out and throw you for a loop  Steph |
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Post by Cher on May 16, 2007 10:12:53 GMT -5
yes, I always have time to hunt rocks with you. Good thought, start her really young Stefan, while she's close to the ground. ;D |
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Post by onewomanarmy on May 16, 2007 10:16:29 GMT -5
Stefan - from my personal experience, I wouldn't worry about the adult thing (much less the grandpa thing) - my grandfather was one of my favorite people in my life - and as far as I could tell, he was about 12 (years old) most of the time. ;D Besides - you don't have to raise this one - she's just for fun - a second childhood for you!  Spoil her rotten, send her home, take a nap to recover (and that nap has nothing to do with age - kids are high energy!), do it all over again as soon as possible. I don't have any kids or grandkids but I'm willing to bet every rock on this board that as soon as you see her you're going to fall head over heels in love with her. So - congratulations! Can't wait to see pictures! |
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Post by Tweetiepy on May 16, 2007 10:38:08 GMT -5
Congrats Stefan, I'm sure you'll be keeping super busy once the little one arrives - (give the rest of us a chance to catch up to you for posts hehe)
Will they be living with you?
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Post by takilasunrise on May 16, 2007 10:57:36 GMT -5
Congrats, Stefan! I'm old enough to be a grandma, too, but so far, I've been lucky! I think I taught my oldest to be responsible! She's proving it so far. We'll see when the almost 15 year olds get out and about. As for your son getting into trouble and on probation....he'll get through it, as long as he keeps it clean. It's hard, and 5 years is a long time. But hopefully, he will learn from it and maybe a baby will kick his butt and make him grow up.
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Post by krazydiamond on May 16, 2007 18:16:41 GMT -5
sorry to pee on this parade, Stefan, and you know i love you like a brother, but if you WERE my brother, i'd beat the crap out of my nephew for knocking up a girl at the age of 20. i'm assuming she is less than 20...how are her parents dealing with this situation? are they going to get married? does he have a job? does she?  ?? or are they just gonna dump (innocent and sweet) grandchild on you? this day and age, no excuse for no birth control. hey, Stef-muffin, if you are cool with this, i'm happy for you, really...... KD |
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maryann
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Post by maryann on May 16, 2007 20:42:48 GMT -5
Big congrats Stefan! This is way cool, very exciting.
Dang it the rest of you all - sniff sniff...very sweet.
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stefan
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Post by stefan on May 17, 2007 9:28:25 GMT -5
Tweet NO they WILL NOT be living with us- THat is one thing that has come up and I can not tolerate that thought! KD Thank you- It is the Dark side to the whole thing- and one of the reasons I have been so distraught over it. But to answer the questions fairly and honestly- Yes he has a job- and he has to keep a job or plain and simple- HE GOES TO JAIL!!! I am very not happy about his actions- (Or hers for that matter) but it is done- She is ok but because she is legally blind she can not drive and probably won't be able to work- she can not even seem to complete her GED (but she is going to try again this fall) She is 19 and her mother has been pretty good about everything (she was pretty young herself as was my wife- when they had their first kids) Her dad live in Arizona (hmmmmm maybe a grandpas get together is in order here) and so far has been supportive. As for raising the child- I am a grandpa- not a daddy- I will love her and do the grandpa things- But I have my own child to still raise- and I'm not gonna tackle this one- SO yes KD he probably needs the crap beat out of him- but he is making an effort- he has gone through his drug rehab 100%clean- and his probation officer has done 3 SURPRISE drug tests on him (even one on a Saturday night!!) and he has shown a lot more maturity lately- we still have a long way to go (hehehehe he has at least 18 more years to go) but I am seeing a light at the end of the tunnel (jeeze I just hope it's not an oncoming frieght train!).
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Spoil her rotten, send her home, take a nap to recover (and that nap has nothing to do with age - kids are high energy!), do it all over again as soon as possible.
