erbojones
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Post by erbojones on Aug 24, 2007 13:44:11 GMT -5
Hello all. My gran died on Wednesday night and I said I would speak at the funeral but then it struck me that I've never heard a eulogy before and I'm not sure what to say. Anyone ever done this sort of thing before? I don't want it to be too depressing - best to focus on the good things/memories right?  Any hints would be really useful. Thanks |
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Post by krazydiamond on Aug 24, 2007 14:05:56 GMT -5
this link might give you some hints, how to start, etc. www.123helpme.com/search.asp?text=eulogyi don't think i could speak at a funeral, i'd get all choked up and crumple into a ball. so sorry to hear about your Gran. KD |
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Post by Lady B on Aug 24, 2007 14:56:17 GMT -5
Hello all. My gran died on Wednesday night and I said I would speak at the funeral but then it struck me that I've never heard a eulogy before and I'm not sure what to say. Anyone ever done this sort of thing before? I don't want it to be too depressing - best to focus on the good things/memories right? Any hints would be really useful. Thanks I am also so sorry to hear of your loss. Letting go of those we love is not an easy task. You are already on the right track for a loving eulogy, though...speak from your heart and "best to focus on the good things/memories right?". My Dad died on December 17, 2002 around 9 in the morning. On December 26th, just past 2 AM, my Mom followed him to Heaven. If we did not focus on the good things and the good memories we never would have made it through those two funerals, so close together and at such a time of year. When I spoke, I spoke from the heart, and it didn't matter that tears were running down my cheeks or that my voice cracked. What mattered was I was able to talk about my Mom and Dad with all the many other people who also loved them. Speak from the heart. You'll feel your Gran's love guiding you. Lady B |
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Post by Cher on Aug 24, 2007 14:56:54 GMT -5
I am so very sorry to hear about your gran's passing, my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. I don't know that I could do that myself, I'd be like kd and crumple up but I've been to services where they have family and friends do the speaking. All I can say is speak from your heart, tell about the good times and how your gran looked at other people. You know, like "she always had something good to say about everyone." Any good "words of wisdom" she may have given you could also be a good thing to speak of, especially if something happened that you could apply it to.
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Post by BuiltonRock on Aug 24, 2007 15:11:05 GMT -5
First: I'm very sorry for your loss. Grandparents are a special gift. You are in my prayers.
Second: Just speak from the heart and you'll be great. As KD said we tend to get chocked up so I would suggest a simple outline. Nothing major, you can use an index card, its more a security blanket than anything. Also when I speak I usually have my opening remarks memorized. When I first go to the podium is when the heart starts pumping and my memory goes blank, so just having those first couple sentences ready helps. Once I get started thing usually go okay.
Third: I always take a minute to pray a few minutes before.
You will be great! The fact that you have been asked to do this tells me you two were special to each other. He would enjoy hearing about that and so will others.
john
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Post by larrywyland3 on Aug 24, 2007 18:05:15 GMT -5
Sorry to hear of your loss; my condolences to you and your family.
The only thing I can add is that you can write down topics on a sheet of paper and then speak from the heart about each. It is always hard to speak in front of a group of people; I tried to speak at my grandmother's funeral; I couldn't find the words. It is nice to hear how many children and grandchildren. Interest she had though out her life, special events that were important to her. Memories she often spoke of when at family gatherings. A friend of mine recently past she was much older than I so I only knew her as an older matriarchal figure. It was great to her about the younger women I never knew and through out I could see how she became the women she was and the person I knew. God bless you and your family.
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erbojones
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Post by erbojones on Aug 25, 2007 8:41:15 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice and words of support - I think I know what to say now.
Thanks again.
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karenfh
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Post by karenfh on Aug 25, 2007 11:15:25 GMT -5
One of the neatest things I ever heard at a memorial service was a collection of each grandchild's favorite memory. One grandson was appointed to read everything, but all the grandchildren contributed. They did limit it to one each, as she had 20+ grandkids.
So sorry for your loss! Best of luck to you.
Karen
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Silver Lass
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Post by Silver Lass on Aug 25, 2007 11:42:10 GMT -5
I am so sorry for you loss. My prayers are with you and your family. A grandmothers love is so special. I know she will be there in spirit to help you. Again you and family and friends are in my thoughts and prayers. Dorothy
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181lizard
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Post by 181lizard on Aug 25, 2007 13:40:25 GMT -5
My family thrives on laughter. My brother spoke at my Moms gathering in july. We didn't want a stranger speaking for us kids, so we told stories instead. Even though we were all sniveling  we all were crackin up cause the stories were hysterical. Brother Jimmy would say something...one of us would pipe up with a sarcastic remark & the next thing ya knew...family & friends were wiping tears up from laughing so hard... People who didn't know my Mom but came to support us, said they felt like they DID get to know her through the stories told that day. My suggestion is...have family write a quick story...then you tell it. How much more intimate & personal can you get? Sincere condolences & hope that everything goes well. Liz |
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cleo12797
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Post by cleo12797 on Aug 25, 2007 19:03:43 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss. I've done it a couple of times. Speak from your heart, ask your higher power to give you the right words, and tell some funny stories. Just think of how you want to remember her.
Ang
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we all were crackin up cause the stories were hysterical. Brother Jimmy would say something...one of us would pipe up with a sarcastic remark & the next thing ya knew...family & friends were wiping tears up from laughing so hard...
