hobopuppy
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Post by hobopuppy on Nov 17, 2007 1:01:27 GMT -5
I'm not doing so well right now. I got a call from the nurse at the ICU last night saying she had a bad feeling. I gathered all the family members (my Dad's sister's) and drove the hour to the hospital late last night. I arrived there sometime around 11pm. I stayed until 3:00am and decided that I should head home because my hubby had to work. I got probably more than half way home when my cell rings. It's the nurse to tell me that Dad passed away. Thank God nobody was behind me at the hour because they would have nailed me. I spun the car around and headed back up to the hospital screaming, crying, talking, and driving 75-80. Passing at least 5 packs of deer standing on the shoulders but none came out in front of me. Someone was watching out for me. I got there and sat with Dad, trying to wake him up. I then had to start making the arrangements. I got back home sometime around 5 this morning and had to be back up at 9 to drive to the funeral home. Everyone please, if you don't have life insurance get one, and if you don't want one then put money off to the side to help those planning your funeral. It's very expensive and hard on the family when they want to buy a certain type of casket that they think you'd like but it's outside the budget because of everything else they have to consider. Monday is the funeral and visitation. I've got some planning to do before then and the horrible task of going through some of my father's things. I probably won't be around much for the next few days.
God this hurts. He went quickly and peacefully though. His heart just stopped. I'm glad for that but I'm still not holding together. Can't seem to stop crying for very long. Please keep us all in your thoughts and prayers. I need a lot of strength right now.
I miss him badly...
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Post by joe on Nov 17, 2007 1:13:46 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine your pain. I wish strength for you at this time. Good luck to you.
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181lizard
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Post by 181lizard on Nov 17, 2007 4:15:20 GMT -5
Oh Stacey...
I don't know what to say other than I know your heart is broke. Chin up.
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adrian65
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Post by adrian65 on Nov 17, 2007 4:34:06 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear that. My granny passed while sleeping, so very easy for her, but I still felt broke those days after! Losing someone dear is unreplaceble. Cry if you feel to, and then when you settle down try to keep his memory alive.
Adrian
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Post by pho on Nov 17, 2007 8:01:36 GMT -5
My prayers are with you and your family. Take some down time for yourself when the dust settles.....you will it.
Tom
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Post by texaswoodie on Nov 17, 2007 9:52:29 GMT -5
I pray for your strength and peace.
Curt
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Post by ladyt on Nov 17, 2007 11:01:16 GMT -5
Prayers for you and your family. Let the tears go, somehow they will ease your pain. Be strong and know we are here when you need to talk.  |
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Rockygibraltar
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Post by Rockygibraltar on Nov 17, 2007 15:27:48 GMT -5
God bless you and your family with comfort, peace and strength. I felt the same way when my father passed on. I randomly broke into tears for some time after. But the pain fades and is replaced with the joy of good memories.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 17, 2007 17:53:44 GMT -5
Oh Stacey, Im so sorry!!!! Knowing the time is near never makes it any easier. My thoughts are with you and your family.
You know I am here if you want to talk,
Shannon
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free4rms
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Post by free4rms on Nov 17, 2007 22:39:38 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear that you father passed away. I will not say I know how you feel, but I lost my Dad a year and a half ago, and it was a terrible experience. Hopefully, wonderful memories will replace the great sorrow a little later down the line, like it did for me. There will always be times of great sadness but they become less frequent and a time will come when you can smile and laugh again when you think of all the great times you had with your Dad.
My heart goes out to you during this truly difficult time.
Vance
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emyhro4048
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Post by emyhro4048 on Nov 18, 2007 7:45:43 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care of yourself too.
Ed M.
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garock
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Post by garock on Nov 18, 2007 17:29:50 GMT -5
Ms. Stacey: I just want to repeat what Mr. Rockygibraltar says "God bless you and your family with comfort, peace and strength. I felt the same way when my father passed on. I randomly broke into tears for some time after. But the pain fades and is replaced with the joy of good memories". I too lost my Dad back on Feb 3rd. It still hurts, but the good memories are starting to return.
God Bless, GaRock (Frank)
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Post by Lady B on Nov 18, 2007 18:09:28 GMT -5
Stacey,
I am so sorry to read this very sad thread. I know this is a devastating loss for you. When you are able to get past this initial feeling of loss you will be consoled in knowing that your Dad is not in pain or ill anymore and you will be able to focus on all of the good memories.
You are a very strong young woman and one of the greatest tributes you can pay your Dad is to get through this sorrowful time with all the courage and LOVE he instilled in you.
I hope you find inner peace real soon. Losing your Dad is a terrible loss but he would want you to focus on your children, your husband, and your SELF and keep moving forward with life. When you look back, look back with love and fondness and let the stresses of the past several weeks fade quickly away.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Lady B
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onewomanarmy
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Post by onewomanarmy on Nov 18, 2007 20:52:06 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Stacey - I know there's nothing that can be said to make the pain go away right now but know you've got a lot of friends out here thinking about you. Take care of yourself - and let others do that when you can't.
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Post by Cher on Nov 19, 2007 0:43:06 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Stacey. I hope that time passes quickly to the point where you can remember your father and all the good times without feeling the pain. Will keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by Tonyterner on Nov 19, 2007 13:26:00 GMT -5
Stacey, I'm so sorry for your loss. You were obviously very close to your father which says a lot about the kind of people you both are. You have a life full of memories, cherish them and allow them to ease your pain.
Tony
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Sparky
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Post by Sparky on Nov 19, 2007 14:28:11 GMT -5
Stacey, be strong and know that you are loved by many. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers, as well. As they say, time heals all wounds.
Rus
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luv2hound
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Post by luv2hound on Nov 19, 2007 17:58:22 GMT -5
Stacey I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you pain quickly passes and good memories replace it.
~~Mitzi~~
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Post by xenaswolf on Nov 19, 2007 21:33:24 GMT -5
My sympathies to you and your family.
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drupe
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Post by drupe on Nov 19, 2007 22:00:45 GMT -5
Stacey
No matter how you think you prepare, it always hits hard. If his passing was easy thats a blessing. Keep your head up and think of the good times. Thats the way he would want it.
His pain is over and yours will slowly subside but you will always have the memories of the good times. You have all of our condolences. God Bless
Pete
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