Daughter coming tonight for good

You are so right that it is a time of celebration!! Just remember that your love and support will be the rock that your daughter can and will rely on. It won't be easy for any of you but it will definitely be worth it.

Good Luck

Dorothy

WTG E-Dog, I don,t recall if you said you had any other kids (I don,t remember seeing this mentioned before) but now you have another rock partner to help you pick out rocks!

It sucks when parents do that - my ex-S-I-L did that with her first kid, she dumped him on the dad & walked away - he's back to living with her now that she's separated from my BIL but he dropped out of school and is back to school now that he's an adult. I always thought that you can't trade your kids for a boyfriend or girlfriend as your kid is always your child and the guy/girl may be gone in two weeks!

Glad you got her back - I'm sure she'll adjust just fine knowing that she's wanted & loved

Good for you!

Jim I'm glad she is going to have a fresh start, a clean slate as it were. She may have some problems later on with the emotional abuse, so be prepared. If she needs counseling be sure to get it for her. Love her for all you are worth and show her that none of the way she was treated was her fault. I'm putting you and yours on my prayer list for a smooth transition.

Earthdog, I Hope everything turns out for the best(and I'm sure it will). You're taking on a big responsibility and your daugther is at an age where it is very difficult to change schools and friends. She looks like an adoreable child and is lucky she can depend on you and your partner.
csroc

When my grandkids got moved at the beginning of school season, they settled right in with no problem, kids are pretty flexible that way nowadays and I hope it will go as smoothly for your daughter. I'm so glad you've finally weeded through the red tape and are getting her home with you and takila. It's going to be a big adjustment for all of you but hang tough, it'll be ok.

We think it'll be good to get her some counseling, that way she can talk to someone outside the family.
Her mother and her will never be able to fix things. When your mother chooses a man over you, then tells you, you are not welcome there.
When the child has been molested since last aug. by her stepfather and your mother calls you a lair, you just can't fix that. Child protective services believe my daughter, but when it came down to the D.A. he said it will be a 13 year olds word against 2 adults word, it would be hard to prosecute, so the state won't prosecute the man. My daughter knows she is loved in this house, and also knows her dad will keep her safe.
And yes, she will be paying me child support, well, she doesn't work, so I guess the stepfather will be paying it to me.
My plan is that after she settles in here, her mother is gonna get an ear full from me. To her mother, I have not said much, untill the child is here. There are quite a few other things besides getting molested that have been going on there. C.P.S. has even told me, without meeting me or coming to our house, that it is gonna be way better for her here. I signed all the papers today to get all the reports from C.P.S. and should have them next week.
I have a hard time now with the system, when a man takes the lock off the bedroom door so she can't lock him out, the mother spend $100 to get her hair colored but can't buy the kid a mattress to sleep on, just a box spring or the floor, doesn't even have any dresser drawers or furniture in her room. When the stepfather yells at all 3 kids to be quiet when they are playing, or he will break their arms. When the stepfather tells my daughter that when she dies he will dance on her grave, when the prick tells me he resents buying my child a snack or food, and needs a sever ass beating, and when his polygragh comes up inconclusive instead of passing it, when he goes into her room late at night, after mom is asleep, and the state won't do anything,,, there is something radically wrong. Everyone around me is proud of me that I didn't go to their house and shoot the man dead in his tracks.
The best revenge is to show mom she is doing great here, and pray he doesn't do the same to his two daughters that are still there.

Damn Dog...what a shame. Breaks my heart.....But sounds like you're taking care of business.

EDog-

Way to keep your head and smarts. By doing anything retaliatory would only make this situation much, much worse. I commend you for not taking a rock hammer to his freaking head or a saw to his ..... Way to be a good man and a better father. God Bless.

Gaeter

Hello Earthdog

I have some things I wanted to share with you about this. I worked in law enforcement for over 26yrs. I feel like I probably have heard it all and seen it all. When I asked women why they do the things they do they all had the same answer! They told me I don't understand them. That having a man is better than having no man at all. I told them, your right! I still don't understand that line of thinking. I told them they are never alone, as they always have themselves. They deserve much better than what they were getting from these men. I've seen cases where they will choose their man over their children. Very sad I think. Children are to be cheerished. Too many times they are abused, neglected and just thrown away like trash. It's great to hear your daughter will be living with you! Take care of her and watch over her. Teach her how important it is to be book smart and street smart! Teach her to be aware of her surroundings and trust her instincts. There are just too many not so much people out there, just waiting to prey on their next victims. She is a real sweetheart! I am happy to know she will also have a new mother figure in her life. Something else you may wish to consider is checking out the Big Brothers and Big Sisters programs. I think this might be something your daughter might be interested in. I came from a disfunctional family also. It doesn't mean you have to turn out that way too! Life is about choices and learning to make the best ones for you. Something else that I think is so important. Don't ever shame the parent in front of your daughter. When you shame the parent, you shame the child without realizing it. I realize her mom hasn't been a good role model, but she is still her mom, no matter how you feel about her. You are much better than that!!! These are just some of my experiences over the years that I wanted to share with you. I don't have any kids, just a house full of animals and rocks! LOL! If anything I have shared helps you with your relationship with your daughter that would make me feel great!